Ask the Expert: Finding Balance

Natalie Gahrmann is a success coach and owner of N-R-G Coaching Associates, a private coaching company that specializes in helping working parents achieve mastery of work and life. Her clients experience more clarity, direction and alignment while reducing stress in their busy lives.

Pregnant and Contemplating Job Change

Kim writes, "My question is related to timing. I have a very satisfing job with high visibility and pay. I love the job, however I have a 1 1/2 hour commute everyday and a 2-year-old daughter at home with our second child due in May. I know I need to make some changes so that when I do go back to work after the second child I will have more time at home. This means taking a new job as flex-time or part-time is not an option with my current position. When is the best time to start looking....especially if we need to relocate?"

Answer: Do you really, really love your job and your employer? And, how do they feel about you? You've ruled out the opportunity for flextime or part-time work with your current employer, however, are other alternative work arrangements like telecommuting, compressed work week, or job shares available? Have you thought through and presented a formal proposal for a more flexible work option? Is your work adaptable to other work arrangements? Sometimes, there may be more options and opportunities than you first assume, especially if you are a prized employee.

However, if you decide that finding a new employer is the best option, give yourself as much time as possible so that you don't feel pressured to take the wrong job in a panic situation. Create a description of what the "ideal" job would look like for you. Be as specific as possible. Having a clear intention about what you are seeking will help you in finding the right job for you.

You may be entitled to benefits from your current employer that will take some time to earn with a new company. Since you are already 6 months pregnant, it may be worth staying until after the birth of your baby. Either way, start networking now and keep your options open. The more options you have, the more powerful you feel. You can consider each alternative as it arises and choose what's best for you and your family.

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