Ask the Work at Home Expert Shawn Mason Spence, MA, is the owner of inPower Multimedia Group LLC which specializes in providing coaching and marketing support for entrepreneurs, writers and academic professionals. She is the author of "Just Work it!: 5 key steps to turning passion into profit" which is available at justworkit.net. Shawn is a speaker, former college instructor and writer for The Parenting Post. Question: My mother was a working mother. She seemed to keep her house clean, spend time with us, keep herself healthy and maintain a strong marriage with my father. I can't seem to do any of these things well. I feel overwhelmed, stretched, resentful (my husband loves his job) and angry. Do I need to get some help (therapy, housekeeper) or am I overreacting? Answer: Your feelings are important, so I don't think you're overreacting. What is important is that you compare apples to apples and not apples to watermelons. In other words, be fair about what your mother dealt with versus what you are dealing with in today's high-paced, high-tech society. My mother worked outside of the home as well, but she wasn't involved in a lot of personal development or personal enjoyment activities like I choose to do. I value a clean home, but I want to enjoy every room in my house versus having the living room sectioned off and all of the furniture covered in plastic. I have family game night, family movie nights, kids choice (where the kids choose the "meals" every week. My mother didn't allow us in the kitchen until we were teenagers and we were so busy with extracurricular activities that games and movies were maybe once a quarter. Be clear about what it is that you value and what you want to be to your family. You can be great at being a wife and mother and be nothing like your own mother. You are the queen of your castle. You set the roles that work for your life and talk with your spouse about your ideas. For example, I have a housekeeper that has come once a month, once every two weeks and once a week depending on my workload and my family schedule. I love leaving the house, doing something fun with the kids and then coming back to a clean house. Find what works for you and be brave enough to try it. Lastly, don't be so hard on yourself. If you are focusing so much on what you don't do well and can't see to think positively about what you can do well, then yes, you need some help. Therapy or counseling doesn't make you a crazy person. We weren't taught the tools in school to deal with complex lives and hectic lifestyles. Get a referral from a friend (I'm sure you're not the only one who has sought help in your circle) and call them to see if you connect with them. If they don't accept calls, ask if you can have a brief intro session before making a full-blown commitment. Also, consider meditation, exercise, prayer, massage and other methods that can help you find some peace in the midst of your hectic life.