Emotional Wellness Mary Symmes is the founder of Self Investment Strategies and a life coach devoted to the empowerment of working women. Mary is also a clinical social worker in Alexandria, Va. Visit her Web site at SelfInvestmentStrategies.com Moody Teenager Question: My teenage daughter is very moody and seems withdrawn when around the family -- however she seems fine with her friends. She rarely talks at dinner and it is hard to find out what is going on in her life. The lack of communication is causing a great deal of stress for my husband and myself. Is she just being a normal teenager or do you think something is wrong? Dana Answer: Dana, I hate to say it, but she is probably being a normal teenager! And probably the more you question her, the less she talks. Try not asking her much directly. Include her in conversations you have, and try to drive her around in the car as much as possible. These days, car trips provide some of the only quiet one-on-one time we have with our children. Often kids will open up a bit in the car - as long as you are not "after" them. Here are some danger signs to look for, just in case something is wrong: Is she eating and sleeping normally? Is she going to school and maintaining her grades? Does she follow household rules, curfews, etc? Does she ever look or smell "funny"? Does she never seem to have money? When you meet her friends (which you should do) do they seem fairly normal? Adolescents are very good at hiding things from their parents, but if she seems to be functioning normally other than being snotty and silent with you, she's probably just caught up in normal separation behavior. Just keep your eye on her, set clear limits, and be available to her. And don't take it personally! You have my best wishes. Mary Symmes Other Recent Questions: I just started a business, and I can't stop worrying I'm worried that my husband may be having an affair. How can I find out? Ask Mary your questions The above is for general information only and is not intended to substitute for professional mental health treatment. Individuals should consult licensed professionals as needed.