Ask the Expert Dr. Roni Leiderman, Associate Dean at The Family and School Center of Nova Southeastern University, is not only an expert on parenting issues but the working mother of two children. Dealing with Co-Workers' Comments Question: Last year I became pregnant and gave birth to a baby girl in Nov. 1999. I experienced some complications during my pregnancy and was off work for nearly 4 months. I recently discovered that I am pregnant again, due in Jan 2001. Now that my colleagues are finding out, I am getting a lot of negative comments ("couldn't you guys calm down until your daughter grew some?")...how/what is the best way to handle these type of rude comments? - Michelle Answer: It is often frustrating to have persons make comments that are either unappreciated or unsolicited. Your co-worker's negative comments are most likely not meant to offend or hurt you. But, I'm clear that they are making you feel uncomfortable. As with all unsolicited advice, consider making light of their comments. Say something like, "Thanks for your concern" and leave it at that. Having a sense of humor helps, as well. In the greater scheme of things, focus on the miracle that is growing inside of you and how wonderful it will be to have children close in age. Other recently asked questions • My 5 year old son always whines and cries before bathtime and bedtime. Any tips for stopping the whining? • My two-year old is beginning to turn everything into a negotiation, especially bedtime. What can I do? • Submit your questions