Emotional Wellness Mary Symmes is the founder of Self Investment Strategies and a life coach devoted to the empowerment of working women. Mary is also a clinical social worker in Alexandria, Va. Visit her Web site at SelfInvestmentStrategies.com Getting Other Mom Friends Question: I'm a new mother at 20 years old. I have drastically changed my lifestyle and am left w/ no friends to talk to about it that can relate. Having been a social butterfly in the past, this has been very hard on me and my husband who is now my only friend. Where and how do I go about relieving this cabin fever and meeting worthy, understanding friends? - Tammy Answer: Your Question: Tammy, you are talking about something that new mothers of any age can relate to, but that is especially noticeable to you because most people your age aren't parents yet. Being home with a baby is often lonely, boring, and depressing. I congratulate you on acknowledging this and looking for solutions! Look around for new mothers' support groups. Sometimes local hospitals, obstetricians, midwives, and women's centers can refer you. Call the LaLeche League, childbirth education programs, pediatricians' offices and also your local mental health center to see what they can suggest. Look around in your neighborhood, especially at the playground. Introduce yourself to other women with infants or small children, size them up, see if you click, and start getting to know them. If you live in an apartment or housing development with bulletin boards, post a notice asking to meet other mothers of young kids, or advertise in the community newsletter. Check any local or county programs about parenting, child development, etc. Their instructors may be able to help you, or the class itself may be of interest and expose you to other mothers. See if the YWCA, day care centers, or local day care providers know of other young mothers. Check on line for mothers' organizations that may have chapters in your area. I hear in you a young woman committed to being the best mother she can be, and I encourage you to keep reaching out to get what you need. It may take some time to find really congenial fellow moms, but it is doable. Also, a book called "The Mother's Almanac" by Marguerite Kelly may be very helpful to you. I wish you the best! Mary Symmes Other Recent Questions: I can't decide if I should go back to work after I have a baby or not. Any advice? I'm worried that my husband may be having an affair. How can I find out? Ask Mary your questions The above is for general information only and is not intended to substitute for professional mental health treatment. Individuals should consult licensed professionals as needed.