Emotional Wellness Mary Symmes is the founder of Self Investment Strategies and a life coach devoted to the empowerment of working women. Mary is also a clinical social worker in Alexandria, Va. Visit her Web site at SelfInvestmentStrategies.com Dealing with Stress Question: With two kids (three and nine months) and a senior-level position, I am pretty stressed out most of the time. The result is that I often feel pretty ticked off and my relationship with my husband has taken a real hit. Some of it he deserves, but two things also happen: 1. Even insignificant stuff becomes major. 2. I can't seem to forgive and move on. How can I learn to deal better with my anger? Thanks! Sherri Answer: I think lessening your stress is a must-do for you - and it's easier said than done, I know. First, I advise you to take a physical inventory. Are you exhausted? Do you have frequent headaches or muscle tension? Do you have problems sleeping? Do you get enough exercise? Then take steps to solve whatever problems you find, whether it means getting a physical, getting a massage, getting a trainer, etc. Second, take an emotional inventory. What do you need to change in your interactions with your husband? If you have unresolved anger or other issues with him, some counseling is in order. Do you need to assert yourself more with him? Is your job satisfying to you, or is it more trouble than it is worth? Can you delegate more at work? Is there an unreasonable expectation of hours you must work? How do you feel most of the time? If you are mostly tense, irritable, tearful, reactive, lonely and so on, I recommend you get some third-party help to sort it all out, whether a counselor or coach. I want to stress how important it is for you to look at both these aspects of your life, because they are simply the two sides of the same coin - you. You should lead a satisfying life, generally speaking. We all have challenges to face, but by and large we should look forward to each new day. You sound very stressed, possibly depressed, and I hope you get whatever help you need. None of us were engineered to be superheros, and with 2 young children and a demanding job you can't do it all yourself. Other Recent Questions: I can't decide if I should go back to work after I have a baby or not. Any advice? I'm worried that my husband may be having an affair. How can I find out? Ask Mary your questions The above is for general information only and is not intended to substitute for professional mental health treatment. Individuals should consult licensed professionals as needed.