Ask the Expert Dr. Roni Leiderman, Associate Dean at The Family and School Center of Nova Southeastern University, is not only an expert on parenting issues but the working mother of two children. Getting Other Child to Share Toys Question: I have a 2-year-old son who is more than happy to share his toys with a neighbor boy when the neighbor boy is willing to play along with him. This little boy I am talking about has been diagnosed with having slight autism and doesn't really play well with other kids. How do I deal with it when that little boy will not play with my son but will take his toys away from him? I have tried not bringing toys outside the house, but my son loves to bring his toys outside and the other mother does nothing when her son takes the toys away. I love to see my son playing with other kids because he does it so well, but this one kid just makes my son so upset that I actually am thinking about not allowing him to play with him anymore, is that the solution? - Dianne Answer: Dianne, During the toddler years, children have the opportunity to learn many lessons about sharing and turn taking through their interactions with others. While your son's playmate has special needs that may make it more challenging for him to learn these lessons, there are things you can do to promote more peaceful play dates. When possible, step in and help each child gradually understand that taking turns is an important part of getting along with others. For example, after your son has played with a toy say, "Jonathan, let's give Andrew a turn to play now." Then, after a few minutes, say, "Andrew, now it's Jonathan's turn again" and encourage him to return the toy to your son. Be patient and maintain realistic expectations. Also, explain to your son that his friend is still learning to share. Provide plenty of play opportunities that are not dependent upon specific toys. For example, take the boys to a park or playground, or enjoy a nature walk together. With your support, patience and guidance, your son can enjoy his friend and more peaceful play dates. Good luck! Other recently asked questions • My husband seems to think threatening our three year old daughter is the best way to get her to obey. Problem is that he normally caves and doesn’t follow through. How can I stop this? • My two-year old is beginning to turn everything into a negotiation, especially bedtime. What can I do? • More questions • Submit your questions